So I am talking to a old friend. Who has been married for 11 years. He told me he is in the dog house with his wife. The reason, he told her the truth. No ladies settle down he was not cheating, No he doesn't have a child outside of the marriage, No he didn't waste the rent on a stripper (thats a different friend and a different post to come) None of the things that women would turn over a table and murder a husband slowly and painfully over.
What he said was that they have not had "relations"* in 4 months and what could be done bring the spice back. She pooped a chicken.How dare he be selfish and talk about his needs. She is a working woman with a child. She will get to him when time permits. Now I know the ladies will say "well how did he say it?" "When did he say it?"etc. It does not matter ladies and let me tell you why. The fact this man reached out means he loves so much, he wants to mend things. NOW had he just said "to hell with her" and got side piece, THEN he is wrong. However in the context of this situation. SHE is wrong ....... I am going to pause for a second as I know some ladies fainted and some are plotting to Wesley Snipe me but hear me out
. Men are sensitive creatures just like ladies. We feel everything you all feel. The only difference is ladies get emotional and expresses herself in ANY TONE, it is strength. A man has to sit, think, how to do it the "right" way or face being an episode of "Snapped". In reality there is NOT a right way to say certain things to a woman. More than likely you will offend her and make the situation worse. Which where the question is presented "Do women really want to hear the truth?
Now before my ladies just up and down "Even if it hurts I want the truth" I want you to really think about the answer. Truth can lead to opening a rabbit hole that a man may never get out of. Imagine if a man answered you honestly all the time. How long would that man be around? What if men expressed the way we felt honestly to you no filter? More than likely he would be labeled verbally abusive. Even if he whispered these said facts with roses, chocolates in the form of a poem. Thats reality
So ladies I ask Do you really want to hear the truth or nice lie.
The friend I started this blog about now feels he can't talk to his wife anymore from fear. See where problems start? Which a lot of men feel that way. There is where is the disconnect begins in a relationship. Now had he just went out and cheated he would be a no good dirty down b@$tard. How does a man talk to woman the right about problems?thanks to K Trimmer for the edirs
